90 Day Fiance couple Kenny Niedermeier and Armando Rubio are planning a wedding as well as having another child together on Season 3 of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way, so did the couple tie the knot or did they eventually break up? What do 90 Day Fiance spoilers reveal about their relationship now — are they still together?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report contains spoilers about the status of Kenny and Armando’s relationship and if they got married and are still together now.]
Kenneth, a 58-year-old from St. Petersburg, FL, who goes by Kenny, and Armando, a 32-year-old from San Felipe, Mexico, met by chance on a social media page that served as a support group for gay fathers.
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Armando welcomed a daughter Hannah, who was six years old at the time of filming, with his late wife, who had tragically passed away in a car accident.
Kenny is dad to a son Bricen and triplet daughters — Taylor, Cassidy and Madison — who are all in their twenties. He welcomed his children with a friend who had been willing to undergo in vitro fertilization, and he’s also a grandfather to Cooper, 5.
Kenny and Armando were just friends for about a year until Kenny visited Armando in Mexico and then Armando made the first move.
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way’s second season featured Kenny leaving his Florida home and moving to Mexico to start a life with Armando and Hannah.
Kenny’s family was very supportive of his relationship with Armando, but Armando had yet to tell his parents he was in a serious relationship with another man.
(Armando said he told his parents once before he’s gay but their startled reaction sent him “back into the closet” for a while.)
Armando therefore told his parents that he was filming a documentary about life in Mexico since cameras were always following him around, but he eventually came clean to them.
Armando’s parents told him that they’d always love him the same, but they were very emotional and acknowledged it would take them time to accept his way of life.
Kenny said it was a “dream come true” to be reunited and living with Armando, but Kenny had many adjustments to make, including learning Spanish and trying new foods.
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Kenny’s apartment also had no central heat or air conditioners, and the nearest bank was 40 minutes away.
“I have to admit I am worried about our safety as a gay couple. Our culture is very macho-centric and people in Mexico are still homophobic… I’m afraid that we might get hurt,” Armando told the cameras.
But Kenny eventually proposed marriage to Armando in front of his daughters Taylor and Cassidy, who flew to Mexico for the special occasion.
Armando then gathered up the courage to introduce Kenny to his parents. Armando’s mother Virginia admitted it was “strange” to see her son with a man, and Armando Sr. hugged his son and shook Kenny’s hand.
“I can tell that she’s embarrassed and that she’s hurt by this [engagement] announcement. And I’m sad. I’m sad for Armando that his mother took it as something horrible and not as something beautiful,” Kenny said in a confessional.
Armando figured his parents just needed more time to come around and accept him, without worrying about what society thinks.
Armando told his mother that he wanted a real wedding instead of just signing marriage papers at a registry and he hoped for her love and support. Armando wanted his wedding day to be a joyful celebration, and his mother agreed to attend the party.
And Kenny quickly came to realize he and Armando had very different parenting styles.
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Kenny and Armando later headed to a marriage office to apply for a marriage license.
“Same-sex marriage in Mexico have been legal since 2015, but I have read articles that same-sex couples have had troubles getting their licenses approved,” Armando explained to the cameras.
“Gay marriage in Mexico is still looked down upon because of the culture… In some ways, it’s like we’re back in time.”
When Kenny and Armando met with a civil registry clerk, Armando presented a petition letter for a same-sex marriage, but the registry clerk said the pair wouldn’t be able to receive their marriage license due to “a law that states, ‘No you can’t.”
“And we have a constitution that says, ‘Yes you can,'” the registry clerk explained. “Sadly, we don’t have legislation that supports us to reform our code — the one that says we still can’t allow same-sex marriage to go through.”
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In Kenny and Armando’s official letter of denial from the civil registry clerk, it read same-sex marriage was not permitted in Mexico in order to “save the human species” and preserve union for men and women.
Armando and Kenny couldn’t believe the wording in the letter, and Armando called it “humiliating.”
“We are part of the human race,” Kenny argued, adding that he felt “very defeated.”
Armando, however, learned “alternative measures” could be taken, such as going to the Human Rights Commission and submitting a complaint that declares being denied the right to marry violates a basic human right.
On Season 3 of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way, Kenny expressed how he had made a huge sacrifice for Armando and was feeling extremely homesick.
Kenny told his daughter Cassidy that he didn’t have any regrets about moving but he sometimes fell into depression over missing his family and felt guilty about leaving them. Kenny had been hiding that side of him from Armando so his fiance wouldn’t feel bad or responsible.
“I’m honest with Armando about everything — but this,” Kenny revealed in tears.
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“I’ve never let on totally how badly I felt about leaving or how hard it’s kind of been because he’s had feelings about if he forced me to move. Because I know at different times, I put it off due to family issues or family problems and he would get upset with me because he felt I was dragging my feet.”
But Kenny’s mood shifted once Armando Sr. hugged him for the first time after hearing about the couple’s upcoming wedding.
“I’ve had this dream or this fantasy of this great, big, happy blended family, and I see a glimmer of hope that this is possible,” Kenny said in a confessional.
Armando Sr., however, wouldn’t commit to attending the wedding, and Kenny just hoped something like that wouldn’t ruin his fiance’s big day.
Armando and Kenny later had a major breakthrough for their relationship. The pair went to the marriage office together with all of the necessary paperwork — and they were told they didn’t even need the human-rights letter anymore.
The marriage office suddenly became authorized to approve any type of marriage going forward, including same-sex marriages.
Many same-sex couples were apparently looking to wed in Mexico and so the demands of citizens pushed this change to apply to the entire state.
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Armando and Kenny were thrilled, and so they set their wedding date for May 22, 2021.
While the pair made a huge stride in the marriage department, they weren’t exactly seeing eye to eye over how and when to expand their family.
Armando opened up to Kenny and said he felt “an emptiness” inside him, like “something [was] missing,” and so he had been thinking about pursuing an adoption. Kenny was a little hesitant about raising another child due to his age.
Armando said he’s always wanted more kids and envisioned the idea of raising a baby, instead of an older child, which appeared to make Kenny nervous and reluctant.
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“I can see it, but I also know we need to be logical about it… We need to talk on it,” Kenny told his fiance.
Armando suggested they could maybe make a baby through in vitro so the baby would have Kenny’s blood (given Hannah has Armando’s blood), and Kenny took a big deep breath. Armando knew convincing Kenny of this was going to be a tall order.
Kenny said he liked the idea of adopting an older kid so they could help a child in need, and at age 58 — even though Armando was 32 — he thought it would make more sense for them.
Kenny told Armando their age gap never entered his mind but thinking about raising a baby was “a hit in the face.” Kenny said he never wanted to leave Armando alone to raise a child without him.
Kenny got a little emotional, but Armando insisted Kenny’s age didn’t matter and it’s a journey he’d love to do together. Kenny wanted to make Armando’s dreams come true, but he also wanted Armando to really think things through.
Kenny said they’d take the process step by step but he was willing to do some research and visit open-minded adoption agencies about same-sex couples.
Armando apparently had a good conversation with a private agency, an orphanage, that houses children who are HIV-positive. Kenny said he lost 80 percent of the people he knew to HIV in the 1980s, and so visiting this agency truly warmed his heart and he said he wanted to help.
Armando and Kenny were then introduced to some of the children and the men brought them new toys. Kenny just wanted to show the kids love and tenderness, but he wondered if medicine would be readily available for a child with HIV in Mexico and how this child would affect Hannah and Armando’s family considering there’s still a stigma surrounding the virus.
Armando expressed how it would be such a struggle to have his family embrace and support him adopting a child with HIV, but Kenny noted, “I would rather help a kid than make a kid.”
Kenny didn’t totally reject the idea of having a baby, especially given adoption would probably take a lot longer, but he asked Armando to just focus on the wedding for now since that was stressful enough in itself.
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The possibility of Kenny and Armando expanding their family made Kenny miss his children even more. He was expecting his entire family to come to the wedding, which made him so excited.
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Cassidy was also pregnant at the time with Kenny’s second grandchild, and Kenny cried about the idea of not being by Cassidy’s side for every step of the way.
Kenny sometimes felt “all alone” as life kept marching on without him.
“I’ve been the happiest I’ve ever been in my entire life, but I’ve also been the saddest I’ve ever been in my entire life,” Kenny told the cameras, adding that Armando had no interest in ever moving to the United States at that point.
“Sometimes I wish we had talked about it more, but I committed to it. I fell in love with someone from another country, and sometimes life has hard choices.”
Kenny then finally revealed to Armando how homesick he had been, and Armando naturally felt a little guilty.
“I hope this isn’t something where you’d want to go back home and cancel the wedding or something,” Armando said. “You’re scaring me.”
Kenny assured his fiance, “It’s not like that… [but] I do struggle sometimes with missing everyone.”
Kenny explained how he felt like he was letting his family down, and Armando broke down into tears because he said he’d never want to hurt Kenny’s kids because he loved them. Armando worried Kenny’s kids wouldn’t like him for keeping Kenny away.
Kenny promised Armando that wasn’t the case and he just wanted to be honest and vent sometimes. Armando told Kenny that he would be there for him going forward, but he worried about Kenny’s mindset and whether he’d change his mind about their union.
Did Kenny and Armando break up or get married? And is the 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way couple still together now?
Kenny revealed October 27, 2019 on Instagram he was moving to Mexico to be with Armando soon.
“#Countdown, little over a month and our #forever starts. #love him #gaycouple #movingforlove #mexico #maydecember #proudofhim #instagay #lucky,” Kenny captioned a selfie of the couple.
Armando replied, “Can’t come soon enough my love! Been waiting for this moment so long, will be the best.”
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Kenny’s house in Florida sold in July 2019 for close to $350,000, and then he left for Mexico four months later on November 30 with his dog Truffles on a four-day road trip, Starcasm reported.
“When I left my hometown of Toledo Ohio when I was 19, I was running away from something, running from who I couldn’t be… in Florida I found myself and who I was meant to be!,” Kenny reportedly wrote in part on Instagram at the time.
“Tomorrow I am running again, not away, but towards something, to love, #lovewins #loveislove.”
Kenny and Armando got married in May 2021 during a romantic ceremony at the Mansarda winery in Ensenada, Baja California, Mexico, People reported.
“It’s been a long time coming and we’re very happy. We’re excited to finally be here,” Kenny told the magazine after his wedding.
“It was a battle in many ways, and so it’s surreal to finally be able to get married,” Armando added, referencing the fact that Mexican government officials had initially rejected their request for a gay marriage license and the COVID-19 pandemic then also forced the couple to postpone their wedding plans.
“We actually had a lot more time to think about it, and we planned an epic wedding and a lot of things worked out even to our advantage because we had to wait,” Kenny said.
“We noticed that being locked down together, it made us closer and we were able to get to know each other even more,” Armando said.
“We haven’t killed each other. And after quarantine, that’s pretty good,” Kenny joked.
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Although the couple chose a 100-guest limit, Kenny’s five adult children and Armando’s eight-year-old daughter Hannah were able to attend.
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“It means everything. I have really supportive children that have always had my back and never let me down,” Kenny told People. “Having them here to witness their dad getting married after all these years is amazingly special for me.”
“They love our relationship and that means the world to me.”
While 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way has shown Armando’s conservative Mexican family struggling to accept his sexual orientation after he came out as gay, at least some of his immediate family attended the wedding.
“None of my family members have ever been to a gay wedding, so it’s a first for every single one of them,” he said, although he declined to reveal which relatives did or did not attend. “I’m hoping to open up their minds and what they feel in a positive way.”
“Hopefully seeing the love between us will really open their minds and hearts all the way, and they can see that love is just love,” Kenny added.
According to People, the venue’s 100-guest limit kept the 90 Day Fiance couple from being able to invite Armando’s large extended family.
But Kenny said their wedding venue, surrounded by mountains and vineyards, was “gorgeous.”
“I actually never dreamed that I’d be getting married in a place like this and in a different country than I was born in. It’s really surreal for me!” Kenny gushed.
In August 2021, Armando and Kenny chatted with PeopleTV’s Reality Check, and Kenny shared how married life with Armando was going “pretty darn good.”
“You can see from our smiles things are going great,” Armando, added. “We are living life and learning from each other, things are great.”
Armando said he and Kenny came out of the COVID-19 pandemic “more in love.” (The pandemic hit only four months after Kenny moved from Florida to Mexico).
“It does show, I think, that we were meant to be because we had our struggles and things we didn’t quite know about each other, but it all worked out well for us,” Kenny said, further explaining that being “locked up” helped him get to know his community and neighbors a lot better.
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When asked to reveal their biggest struggle thus far as a couple, Armando joked that Kenny’s driving is stressful — and Kenny accused Armando of being a passenger-seat driver.
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Kenny also said Armando is “a big-time overthinker” in that he “over-analyzes everything to a fault.”
“He’ll make the smallest thing into the biggest thing or he’ll worry, worry, worry. And I’m more chill-axed, so that’s something we’re getting used to with each other,” Kenny revealed. “And he’s trying to chill out a little more and be more relaxed.”
Kenny said Armando’s worry-wart nature led to “conflict” that 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way viewers are about to see on Season 3, and Kenny also said getting Armando’s family to fully embrace their romance also remained “a struggle.”
“Everything isn’t straightforward, everything isn’t smooth for sure but we’re really trying to work together on it and come together on it,” Kenny acknowledged.
As for their future together, Kenny and Armando said they are looking forward to a “big” honeymoon in Switzerland once the pandemic ends.
And ever since September when Season 3 of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way premiered on Lifetime, Kenny and Armando haven’t been shy about showing their love and affection for one another on social media.
Armando posted a beautiful family photo with Kenny and Hannah on September 12, and then a week later, he uploaded a photo of Kenny and himself laughing with his Mexican family.
“One thing Kenny & I have talked about & always made sure of is being truthful, sincere, authentic and real in our daily lives & when filming because we owe it all to you, the viewers & supporters of our journey,” Armando wrote alongside the picture.
“We aren’t perfect. Yes we cry a lot (well, mostly Kenny lol) but what better definition of wearing your heart on your sleeve than that. We have gone through real life issues. Our families & us have had to adjust in different ways. Situations with depth both difficult & easy but with so much heart put into it.”
Armando added, “Our journey continues… There are unfortunately many ups & downs still to come and a lot of questions we hope will be answered for all of you & myself this season. Not everything is smooth but that’s life.”
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Kenny took to Instagram on October 7 with a picture of Armando and himself wearing matching rainbow tie-dye sweatshirts they had been selling to fans.
On October 10, Armando shared another cute photo with Kenny and Hannah and gushed, “Circle of love. Never give up on yourself and for those you love! Be invincible in this world.”
And on October 17, Kenny revealed he and Armando had set up a GoFundMe account for the children with HIV in the Mexico orphanage the men were shown visiting on an episode of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
The men are trying to make a difference, and they’re doing it as a team.
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