Undeniably, OutDaughtered stars, Adam and Danielle Busby, are going through a bit of a rough patch during Season 10. While life is seemingly weighing on them both more right now, their marriage is also taking a hit.
Adam And Danielle Busby Admit They Are Struggling In Their Marriage
During the last episode of OutDaughtered, Adam and Danielle Busby, had several moments of tense miscommunications. Markedly, one of the big snafus was Danielle telling Adam to check the girls’ bags before their trip. But Adam heard “count the bags” instead. Undeniably, it was a shock for Mom and Dad to get to the hotel only to realize their quints were without clothes for the entire trip. Quickly, Danielle blames Adam for not checking them as she instructed. But Adam counters with the argument she always packs for the kids so they don’t know how when they need to. Later, Danielle encourages Adam to consider going on a marriage retreat to help them grow closer in their struggling marriage.
Adam & Danielle Busby Get Help, Love & Marriage Takes Work
In a teaser for the upcoming episode of OutDaughtered, fans see that Adam and Danielle Busby agree to get help for their marital problems. However, the journey to getting assistance admittedly takes a lot of work. While at the couple’s retreat that was mentioned in the June 4 episode, Danielle and Adam find that opposites truly attract. Danielle gets an eye-opening view of how Adam feels. After assessing their love languages, the couple has a hard realization that the road to repair isn’t going to be easy.
Adam And Danielle Busby Discuss Their Differing Love Languages
In an open discussion, Danielle Busby states her highest needs in relationships. She says, “Acts of service because ever since I’ve been a child, I’ve had to do so much for myself that – for someone to take the load off of me is a huge weight of love.” Then she gives a tangible example, “going to start washing laundry because you know I do it and you know it’d help me out” is what she needs. Furthermore, she identifies, “That shows me love. That’s how I understand love.”
However, when Adam Busby talks about his top two love languages it is apparent how different they are. Adam reveals he understands love through “words of affirmation and then physical touch.” After his statements, Danielle pieces together they are exact opposites. She flabbergastingly says, “Literally, his top two are my bottom two.” Among the five love language are physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, and quality time. However, the retreat leader asserts that physical touch can be very difficult to navigate if one person is high in this category and their partner is low.
Navigating Physical Touch Discrepancies
In Adam and Danielle Busby’s case, they are on opposite ends of the physical touch spectrum. The retreat guide says, “If someone is a very high-touch person and that’s what they need, and the other person is a very low-touch person, that’s very challenging because we can’t fake that part, right?” However, she makes suggestions for this puzzling situation. She says, “It’s really about that intimacy about being connected. But when your partner needs that, you have to work 10 times harder than any other love language.”
Danielle and Adam Busby learn how differently they need to be shown love. – OutDaughtered
Reflecting on the retreat, Adam says, “They say opposites attract. So I mean, there’s definitely some attraction there.” However, he is realistic that marriage is hard and requires work. He acknowledges, “But it’s — it makes things a lot [more] difficult and you know, there’s some flare-ups from time to time, but love, and marriage, takes work.”
Danielle Busby Doesn’t Get All Lovey Dovey
When Danielle Busby absorbed the lessons from the retreat she came to a few conclusions as well. She reflects, “How I grew up, we’re not lovey-dovey sisters and whatnot. But we still love each other.” Thinking about Adam’s childhood she says, “And I love Adam and his family and they are more lovey-dovey.” Admittedly, it is foreign to her. She says, “And that’s strange to me, but you know, we can be aware of it and put the other before ourselves, and hopefully it’ll make these acts of loving easier.”
Undoubtedly, knowing about her partner gives her ways to increase the acts of physical touch. Although it is more difficult since it isn’t as important to her, she knows she will need to compromise in that area to have a deeper connection with her husband. Likewise, since acts of service are so high on Danielle’s list, Adam can embrace doing regular surprise household duties to strengthen their bond.
Knowing Is Half The Battle
As it is said, “knowing is half the battle,” but learning from it is far more difficult. Once Adam and Danielle Busby identified their preferred ways of receiving love, they now need to find areas they can improve. In the retreat, the facilitator also says, “Love languages are so important —because if you know it and you do nothing about it, problems start.”
Check out the exclusive clip here about love languages.
OutDaughtered airs Tuesdays at 9/8c on TLC. And streams later on Max.
Do you think that Adam and Danielle Busby will be able to apply the newfound knowledge about their love languages? Do you have a spouse that is opposite in their style of loving? Are you enjoying this season of OutDaughtered? Drop your comments below.
